What's in a Name?
20 September 2009, 18:03
Having gone through two weeks of orientation at school now, I’ve learned a lot more of what the next 21 months of life will be like and met many of the people with whom I’ll spend it. In meeting lots of my new classmates, I’ve been frequently asked the following question.
Do you go by Matt or Matthew?
Most people would have a definite answer to this question and respond one way or another. However, my response is almost always “either.” And I answer that for a few reasons.
First, in every academic setting (but no workplace setting) I’ve been in, there has always been at least one other Matt or Matthew. Since I’m relatively easygoing, I’ve typically deferred to either going by whichever the other Matt or Matthew didn’t go by or just given the interrogator the choice of convenience.
Second, and over time this has become a corollary to the preceding point, I’ve noticed that others will call me what they are used to calling people named Matthew. In the few situations where I provided a definite answer to the question, over time many people will switch to calling me by the other name. They’ll even spell my name differently if that’s what is familiar to them.
Finally, depending on the situation, context, and rhythm or cadence of what I’m saying, I will identify myself by either name. Typically, I introduce myself as Matthew, but a minority of the time, I will introduce myself as Matt. I’ve identified myself with both names, so others doing so is fine by me.
I use Google Apps for email on my domain, which is awesome and pretty much just like GMail save for the lack of themes. When setting it up, I had to choose a username. At the time, I reflected on how some people call me Matthew and others call me Matt, and how whichever I chose, some people could be confused. My solution? I picked one as the user name and set up the other to redirect to the first. So if you want to send email to my waymost.net email, you can use either matt or matthew in front. Either way, I’ll get your message.
And that’s just the way I like it.
